How My Boyfriend Made Me a Better Person

Upon reading Timothy Tiah's blog on the ways his wife made him a better person, I became inspired to write about mine too. I actually wanted to write something similar long ago but didn't manage to take initiative to do so. 

I guess it makes a person wanting to share how his/her partner makes him/her a better person only when it's really true. But I beg to differ something Timothy mentioned. He said most of the time, a partner is going to bring upon positive changes to you. To me, only the right partner does because if you're being with a bad/wrong one, he/she will never make you a better person. Well, this is according to my own experiences. 

First of all, let me briefly introduce my partner, Kingsley and I. 

I am not going to reveal much here but I have to say he's not only my boyfriend, he's also my soulmate, work partner, best friend and almost like a family!

So how have I positively changed since I met him?

1. I did things I never knew I could

Somehow he managed to trigger all the buttons in me to perform, strive and achieve things I didn't know I could. He told me to start a blog, he encouraged me to do three things at once (study, blog, tutoring) and recently, he urged me to get a camera. He always tells me how I should have more confidence, more adamant and more ambitious. 

2. I learned photography from him

Two years ago, if you told/ask me anything about photography, I'd give you a blank stare or simply shun you off. But now, I can roughly interact with anyone about photography. Well, not too technical or sophisticated but at least I am now passionate to learn and improve. I didn't think taking photos mean so much hard work but now I fathom why. 

3. I learned to watch American Series

To me, this is a positive change. Despite being a banana (meaning, Chinese illiterate), I used to have strong Chinese-y attributes in me. I loved Chinese songs and I mostly watched Chinese dramas (Hong Kong and Taiwan). But Kingsley is an avid fan of American Series and on average, he has 30 series to watch every week! So God knows how he talked me into watching Prison Break and snapped, I began loving the American style and now I'm hooked onto a few series myself, namely Suits, The 100, Arrow, Under The Dome and recently I started Breaking Bad (I'm slow I know). So come talk to me about these series! But not Game of Thrones please (God knows why I just don't fancy it). 

4. I learned to eat and be really picky about food

The me before meeting him was extremely "cincai" when it came to food. I was so not picky about food to the extent that food was merely something to keep my stomach filled and an energy source. Don't take me wrong, I have a dad who brings me around for good food but I wouldn't have high expectations. Now, I have learned to savour, appreciate, comment and even criticise. But of course, I am still less fastidious than him in this aspect. I can accept eating anything mediocre as long as it's within my acceptable taste boundary. 

5. I have learned to love, tolerate and be in a relationship

I am one who doesn't like being in a wrong relationship so whenever I sense something not right, I would choose to leave. I have this belief that being alone is better than being with a wrong partner. But I can confess Kingsley is the right one. Half of him is just like half of me, if you get what I mean. We're similar in many many ways and probably this is the reason why we can get along very well. But as days passed, we realized we do have differences and thankfully, we have strong mutual appreciation. 

Why do I say I have learned to be in a relationship? Frankly speaking, I used to doubt myself whenever I was with my ex-es but now, I am totally in the relationship without doubts. I don't worry about whether I should leave him or if I am wasting my time or anxious about our future. 

I feel this is incredibly important because if you do not enjoy being in the relationship, it also implies you are not being yourself and why are you still clinging onto the wrong partner?

So yeah, for now I have five strong points to say how he has helped me become a better person. I hope he feels the same way! :)